Trust and Respect…
A friend telling me… that I have earned his trust, after a few years being good friends… and he also telling me that I have earned his respect…
Trust and respect… is not something that we can get easily, it’s something that we have to earn… something that we have to pay with expensive price. Difficult to build, easy to ruin. It’s not effortless…
Trust… to earn a trust from someone… we have to be able to show the sincerity, the honesty, and we have to prove it.
Respect… to earn a respect from someone… we have to show respect first, the loyalty, and we have to prove it.
Without trust and respect, it is difficult for us to survive in the world. We could never have a good relationship with anyone related to us, without trust and respect. Relationship/marriage will fail, friendship will fail, and people will cheat on each others… hurt each others… fight with each others… what a miserable world…
Once we don’t have trust and respect to anyone, we will never find peacefulness in our live. We will live with suspicion towards others. And once we are not trusted and respected by others, we will find difficulties to survive as well.
How to build your trust and respect to others? Time and experience will help you to learn the relationship with others, and we have to be brave enough to take a chance, to give a little trust and respect toward others in the first place. To learn to trust and respect, needs some efforts.
How to be trusted and respected by others? – by learning to trust and respect other first. By expressing sincerity and honesty, we can earn trust and respect from others after we are able to prove it.
I once trust and respect someone truly, but only by simple things, twisted words and lies, it changed my trust and respect to many people. Only by one person, at once I stop trusting many people, and have difficulties to put respect on people.
It is difficult to live in that kind of situation, I always being suspicious, and cannot feel the peacefulness inside. Only one person triggered it, but the result is that I couldn’t trust anyone around me. How strange it is…
For sometimes I argued with myself. It needs long time to wake up and start to learn to trust and respect again. It needs a long time to forgive and forget, for the hurt caused by dishonesty and selfishness that ruined my trust and respect.
As I learn from the beginning again, to trust and to respect others… I also realize… I might have caused many people lose their trust and respect toward others, because what I had done to them… it reminds me to be more careful in managing with the trust and respect I earned from others…
Now I learn… to be careful with my acts and words… not to cause disrespect and doubt for others… and at the same time, be sincere and honest in everything I do…
I feel sorry to those who cannot trust and respect others, and it’s a disgrace for someone who cannot earn trust and respect from others.
ps: thanks to my best friend, who keep on trusting and respecting me, when I was unable to put trust and respect towards anyone… you teach me the real thing about trust and respect… you show me sincerity and honesty, as well as the value of relationship and peacefulness in life. Thanks for the precious lesson you show me … 
